Not everyone likes to be criticised. At some point in your life you will receive comments you won’t like, perhaps in a professional setting or in your personal life. Sometimes it will be difficult to accept but you can use it as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Dealing with criticism in a positive way requires good self-esteem and assertiveness skills.
“The trouble with most of us is that we’d rather be ruined by praise than saved by
criticism.” – Norman Vincent Peale
The quote above is very helpful, as it reminds me that criticism is a positive not just a negative.
Know the difference between the two types of criticism – constructive and destructive:
Constructive – The course of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving positive and negative comments in a friendly way rather than an oppositional one.
Destructive – This is performed with the purpose to harm someone or destroy someone’s creation, reputation and self-esteem.
Once you’ve understood the difference, please read my 3 top tips below which will help you deal with criticism:
Accept that you can’t always be perfect – Everyone has their flaws, and if you don’t see any of yours then you’re probably not analysing yourself as closely as you should be. If you want to accept good feedback, don’t always think it is incorrect.
Let it inspire you – Take the antagonism and use it to make the situation more positive. Listen and interpret what you are being offered and ask yourself if it is something you can learn from. Make the changes that will improve your future.
Appreciate the giver – Thank the person who has shared their thoughts whether you agree or disagree. Handling a tough decision positively and showing you can accept other opinions shows you are mature and professional.
As Winston Churchill once said: “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”